Saturday, May 31, 2008

To Bang or Not To Bang

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Okay, friends. I need your advice. I can never decide if it is better for my girls to have bangs or no bangs. Anyone with girls knows the decision is a big one because as soon as the bangs are cut, there is no going back. Well, at least no going back for a long couple of months of constantly seeing your child with hair in her face.

As for my own hair, it's a no brainer. My mama always told me as a child that my forehead NEEDED bangs. I never really knew what she meant until well into my adult years when I decided that I would go for the long hair/no bangs/glamorous look.

The first day I had my bangs pulled back and walked into the elementary school where I taught, the principal, who was a grandfatherly type, said, and this is a direct quote that will forever be seared into my memory, "I have never seen that much forehead on any one person in my life!"

Needless to say, I went straight to the teacher's lounge and tried my best to plaster those babies down over the vastness that is my forehead and that forehead has not seen the light of day since.

But that is not the point here.

The point is that the last time I gave my 8 year old bangs after she begged me for them, the next week she decided she would rather not have bangs. That was about a year ago and her bangs are finally to the point that they are not constantly hanging in her face.

So. Now she wants bangs again.

She does have a pretty good reason this time, though. She has a birthmark on her forehead that is fairly noticeable. She often remarks that it is her "angel kiss", and it has never bothered her.

Until now. She has been getting quite a few questions lately along the lines of, "What happened to your head?" "What is on your forehead?" "Did you bump your head?" Strangely, these comments usually come from adults who I think should know better than to make a child feel self conscious about a birthmark, but I guess they really don't realize what it is.

The point is, now suddenly my daughter wants her birthmark covered up, but she really doesn't like having bangs. She took a poll of family members to help her decide if she should get bangs. Now, she would like to know what the world wide web thinks.

Here she is with bangs.

And without.

What do you think?

To Bang or Not To Bang?
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Nikki said...

Okay, I think she looks very cute with bangs, but quite stunning without. So I vote for no bangs on her. And, I have such a forehead that begs for bangs.

Lisa said...

Maybe you could compromise and give her wisps of hair that will cover the mark a little better but still feel like she doesn't have bangs. This is the opinion of a former hair dresser.


Anonymous said...

I voted no bangs. I think she is adorable both ways but I just like the no bangs picture better. Besides, I think she should be proud of her birth mark it is an unique attribute that not everyone is blessed with. Until you mentioned it I had never noticed it. I always see her beautiful eyes and smile.


Michelle said...

While I think she is adorable both ways, I voted for bangs. I have an affinity for cute, little blondes with bangs. Maybe that's cause I have one too.
I agree with not going too far back though...sometimes it gets weird looking. I think the pic you showed was just perfect! :)

karen b said...

i vote no bangs. my daughter has gone bangless for years because they are just too much trouble to keep trimmed all the time.

btw, she looks cute either way!

Thehotrod5 said...

I vote bangs :) Its only hair and it can grow back. If thats what she wants...thats one "choice" she can make thats not unreasonable...coloring your hair to look like a clown...yeah well..then we may have to talk LOL


JunkMale said...

Speaking as a man, whenever I have seen women with bangs and those same women without bangs, I almost always prefer without.

(I hope it doesn't creep you out that I voted on how you should do your daughter's hair)

Sarah said...

OK, I am a big lover of "no bangs"--I do not have bangs and neither do my two girls. But I understand her discomfort with all of the questions and she looks adorable with bangs. So I would say "go for it!" As long as you have the time to do her bangs....:-)

Karen said...

Ha! I once had a caricaturist tell me that my forehead was so big that you could put another face on it!

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